Saturday, August 2, 2008

water firsts!

The past few days have been all sorts of water fun!
We visited the Newport Beach that J and I hung out at the summer we met here in RI. It was Aiden's first visit to the beach although he is used to playing in the big sandy area at school. He stomped through the chilly ocean, squinted at the bright sun, and then took a snooze as we walked along the cliff walk.
First Beach Trip:

FirstBeachTrip from LB on Vimeo.
Or visit:http://vimeo.com/1457631
Then his first swim class was this Saturday morning (Daddy jumped in with him because of my hurt foot, so I was all over the camera. Although I was super jealous of the other couples that could swap time back and forth... one of the couples had a almost nine month little boy and I recognized them from our birth class! I have a feeling we'll get a chance to get to know them better). The teacher used songs to "introduce the child to the water through play". There was just all sorts of cuteness and I taped over 2/3 of the class, but here it is cut down to the favorite moments.
Our Little Frog's First Swim class:

FirstSwim from Lauren Brennan on Vimeo.
Or visit:http://vimeo.com/1455435

oops mommy's ouchie

Thursday morning I was taking off from work, and before my family arrived I wanted to make some new batches of foods for Aiden. I was using both of my food processors and I was especially excited by my newer one that makes big batches. I had a huge two ice cube tray batch of apricots ready to pour and I thought that if I removed the blade it would cause the apricot to overflow into the center. So, dummy mommy managed to drop the blade on to her foot! It sliced a less than inch long cut across the side of the ball of my foot. I think that it must have hit it directly because it also bruised a bit right away. Well, I tried not to scream because I didn't want to scare the baby, and J rushed into help me with the baby in his arms. I think Aiden thought we were getting ready to paint with red on the tile. The daycare sheet highlight could say, "Today I explored with red 'paint' after it poured from my mommy's ouchie"

Anyway, I wrapped it and it seemed to stop bleeding. I wasn't going to let it stop me from having fun with our visitors! I dealt with labor pains for three weeks I can deal with a little cut (ha!). By the time we were back from walking around it had bled through my sock. Then the next morning just a little bit of blood. I cleaned it a bunch and kept it in my sock and shoe on the beach - talk about nerdville. It really wasn't bothering me more than feeling kinda bruised and the cut looked healed over. But when we got back from running around Newport, the cut looked really mad with red streaks and kinda puffy. It was definitely worse. We found an urgent care and while J took good care of the baby with the girls, my uncle (thanks!) took me on the quickest, most efficient visit to an urgent care. It was less than 30 minutes with the most time spent on determining for sure that I could take this antibiotic while breastfeeding. Yep, it was infected, which he said would have been hard to avoid with a blade contaminated with apricot. When he said it, he made apricot sound like some sort of elicit drug. The doctor was very professional, but kinda a funny guy. I researched for myself on LactMed at the National Library of Medicine and it looks like the breast milk is safe and my supply should be maintained without too much worry. Oopsie, kinda a pain, but it will all work out...

Friday, August 1, 2008

jammin


Part of the Ohio fan club came for a visit! Aiden wasn't sure what to think at first because he'd just woken up from a little cat nap when they first arrived, and he was playing shy by cuddling in to mommy. But when Daddy and Uncle Bill set up a jam session, he just couldn't stop dancing! We took them on a walk through campus and we're looking forward to some fun in Newport.
Here is the rock out set up by the auto flip (the actual music was better):

Thursday, July 31, 2008

baby of the week


I sent the ladies over at my favorite little baby shop (the suppliers of my bella bands and labor massage class) a thank you and Aiden's smile was on their newsletter this month ;) It coincided with my sweet and thoughtful husband going there on his own to get me a gift card (another early bday present which didn't stay a surprise for long). I think we're goin to go get some baby feeding gear.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

cruising

Trying to cruise with his hippo walker today! (Thanks M, J, and K!) Up to now the only cruising was sideways along the gate or ottoman. Daddy spotted him well ;) My favorite part is when he sits back while still holding on to the hippo.

Monday, July 28, 2008

first teeth!

So it's official! The first two teeth have cut through the gummy layer! One on the top and one on the bottom?! Seems odd, but the other side on both the top and the bottom is just right under the teeny layer of gum that has stuck around for a looong time. I remember the doctor talking about she could feel his little tooth buds a looong time ago. His teacher noticed the top one today, and I'm not sure I would've even noticed it since I was really only looking on the bottom lately. It reeeeally bugs the poor little guy for me to feel them, so I try to minimize it. He's had his little bouts of ouchy, but so far he's been able to handle it pretty well.

showered with love

It's summertime in full swing! Feel likes the swing is getting faster and faster, but we keep trying to get out as much as possible. It seems like we plan way in advance for everything lately, so ages ago we had invited some new friends over for brunch and planned to visit J's Aunt Mary. J's Aunt Mary is nun, and let's just say that when we arrived with our smiley bundle of boy and a batch of brownies made by J's Nana we were the hit. The nuns were openly declaring (after no more than two minutes), "We looove him because he is sooo good." He would just grin and bounce. I think his favorite part was riding on one of their walkers, a close second to when one of them gave him her cane. He likes it when someone lets him play with what he perceives to be a big kid toy.

Our new friends are the parents of Aiden's little girlfriend at school, six month old Bella. Their teachers have mentioned numerous times that they are empathetic towards each other and if one cries the other gets upset or tries to help. They were so cute yesterday. They like to reach out towards each other and hold hands! It can't get much cuter than that. I didn't think to get any photos of them playing, but I'll have to get the camera grooving next time they come to play. Bella is a real doll baby.

Bella's mom gave us photos of the book that Aiden's teachers made with all of his classmates - Here are a few pages:

The line, "When it is time for nap, I distract them by trying to clap" was pointed out as Aiden's trick.


i love daddy!

A quick shot series of Aiden as Daddy came downstairs - ooh excited!
Coinciding with J's birthday last week, Aiden developed a case of daddy clingyness. It doesn't matter how hungry he seems, but when daddy walked in the room he pulled away and giggled at daddy. Daddy would point and say eat your numnums and he would giggle again and take another snack before looking for daddy again. If he wasn't there he would call out, "daaadaaa", then look at me with an inquisitive "dada?!" We've come to beleive (and we might just be crazy parents) that he sorta understands the difference between mama and dada. He really seems to associate them with us, but at the very least he associates them with two very different things. Mama means I need help or food or comfort, while Dada means I want to play or I think that is funny. Daddy clingyness also translates into the night time tummy troubles that have cropped up lately. Aiden is lucky to have such a patient and comforting daddy.

Friday, July 25, 2008

the prince and the pea

Aiden's been more and more excited to feed himself. He can pluck even the tiniest peas up and pop them in his mouth. He usually wants one for each hand, but it definitely seems that he favors his right pluckers. His high chair isn't looking as much like a big throne now that he sits up and reaches out over his tray. He really seems to like veggies more than fruits lately.

We've tried a bunch of finger foods and his favorite definitely seems to be the cheerios, but peas seem to be a close second. We went to lunch the other day with my friend and she had puffs for her little girl. He didn't seem to keen on them and made a face like it had a strong flavor. I decided to try one to see if strawberry apple puffs were really strong, but that couldn't be farther from reality. They are tasteless blobs that must expand in your tummy.

I think it's sometimes just the texture that throws him off. He will keep eating, but sometimes the first reaction looks like a deal breaker. Here he is not so interested in his peaches, which he did finish after all.

happy birthday daddy!

It's J's birthday today! I put together a website for him (mostly for his professional schtuff) and set up a little special flash treat of baby smiles. I'm still learning, but here it is:

Sunday, July 20, 2008

tubby time!

Yesterday was the first time we really filled up the bath and pulled out all the bath toys for some true tubby time! Aiden's always loved the bath, even on those cold winter days when it was more of a sponge bath. We usually just pour water over him with a cup and the tub only fills a tiny bit. One parent (usually daddy) is on cup duty monitoring how warm the water is and keeping the water flowing to keep him warm and occupied...while the other parent is scrubbing with the soap, putting on the penguin visor for head rinses, and making sure he's all clean and fresh. It's been a rare occasion when we haven't been able to give him a family scrub, but I do realize this isn't necessarily a two person job.

Bath time is usually pretty quick, but as Aiden gets more active and independent we realized that he'd probably really like to splash around. It's a nice way to cool off on these hot days too. This bath time included bubbles, whistling hippos (thanks J!), and foam letters (thanks B!). We took him out before his toes and fingers became too wrinkly, but I'm betting he'd like to just stay in there all the time.

Here's some tubby time video. The flip auto video on "playdate" features these little cheesy clip art snippets, but I still think it's fun. It pieces together the video in random ways and I think it's fun to see what you get. You'll see the first underwater shots of Aiden's feet with the ultra underwater cover - It leaked, but the camera survived! Tested it without the camera and it remained sealed... who knows - I don't plan to use it immersed again (at least not without backup and not to 30 feet like it says you can!) but it's a good cover for taking the camera to the pool or beach.

yum yums

Aiden's big boy eating now includes cereal os and chicken! He really works to pick up his own os and when he gets them in his hand sometimes he places it on his tongue and gnaws on it like he has a chicken bone in his mouth. Serious gnawing for a little o cereal. We also added in some chicken, sweet tater, and apricot delight which he seemed to like just as much as everything else, although the first sniff wasn't so hot (wish I had a photo of that expression on his face). It's hard to find something he doesn't want to gobble right up.

Still no official teeth for him to chomp with, but those little tooth buds are right there. It feels like teeth are wrapped in a thin layer of cellophane. Yes, he does bite occasionally and trust me they don't have to cut through the gums to feel like razorblades cutting me. I try not to squeak when he does it, or yell nooo, instead I promptly sit him up and say ouch, that hurts mommy. He usually looks at me with puppy dog eyes and I only have a split second to check my wounds before he wants to eat again. If cows can do it, I can too...My new motto as I manage to keep up with all the pumping and nursing. I can see whole milk on the horizon...although it IS a long way away!

Here Aiden is telling us a story about how awesome cereal is:

Saturday, July 19, 2008

swim class signup

I signed Aiden up for his first swim class this morning. It starts Aug 2nd, just a day before he turns nine months. It's for munchkins 6-36 months with a parent. I'm hoping they will let us catch a few shots with the new flip camera covered in its new underwater cover (coming soon!). Stay tuned!

Friday, July 18, 2008

collages

TGIF! Click on them to see them larger.


Wednesday, July 16, 2008

your own food bits


You've been holding your bottle for yourself for a while, but today I tried to see what you would do with some banana chunks if I just put them on your tray. I put down some pretty big chunks and you immediately picked up the slippery bits and put them straight into your munchy mouth. You barely gave me a chance to grab the camera. I just caught the first official self feeding ;) Although you acted liked you do this all the time, you were happy to see us get excited.

8 months, 1 week, 6 days

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

playing in the new kitchen

It's technically not a new kitchen, but it's completely refaced (they layered the front with a new facade, not just veneer) and completely reorganized!
BEFORE:

AFTER:

artsy shot

Yes, those are elbow patches on Aiden's new wedding jacket (hopefully it will still fit in September for F and M's wedding). He is a baby professor. Can't help myself.

Sunday, July 13, 2008

boohoo the weekend is over


Aiden says boohoo the weekend flew by... I swear that Aiden's smile came right back after the photo, but my camera was blocking his view of the kitty cat and he wanted my help chasing after her. This was a nice weekend (and it's not over yet - we still have bath time!)... We got going early and celebrated by eating breakfast out. J just found out he just got a new grant (no strings attached to a nice chunk of change - connected to his book that will go to the editor in the middle of August).

Yesterday we went to our old stomping ground for their Taste of the Square event. We had some treats (yummy meatball sandwiches and popcorn laced in something yum), got to know strangers, cruised into the ModMama shop (I drive past every day and was very curious about, turned out to be an overpriced stroller haven with cute little girl clothes), visited the bookstores (one of which I found out my new boss now owns!) and hit Jerry's Art-a-rama (some awesome deals on drawing stuff). All along the way Aiden was making friends by smiling and clapping at people (even when he was tired). We're enjoying getting out in the nice weather this summer...

Saturday, July 12, 2008

blue baa baa

Aiden has been super vocal lately. Our favorite is when he says Aww and Eh at the kitties or at the fireworks. I tivoed the fireworks on TV with the Boston Pops and let's just say Aiden was mesmerized. He doesn't usually pay much attention to the TV. I'm not sure if it was the music or the big booms, but he immediately started clapping and gurgling oohs and aaahs. He has zurbert weeks that leads into new noises that he likes to make for the next week. This week's Dobeedohdohdoh is one of my all time favorites.

In precrawl mode, he does a lot of squirming around and scooting backwards. His newest trick is hiding things by sitting on them. He even did this with a stinky teether biscuit (which he thinks is a toy now) this morning. I'm really betting that his first word is going to be kitty or he's going to really crawl (forward!)toward a cat for the first time. His latest crawing exercise is to push with both feet crossed and belly scoot just enough to grab something. He's usually just yelling for us to lift him up to standing so that he can take off in pursuit of the kitties. He will take deliberate steps, one foot in front of the other while we hold his hands. He wants to do this, until he's all tuckered out, all the way around the circle that is created by our living room, kitchen, and dining room. It's the same circle that I would walk for "exercise" when I was so, so pregnant and the same path that GranGran would hold Aiden over her shoulder to calm him when he fussed and say "if you're talking, we're walking"...
Second to the kitties, his new favorite is the big blue ball. Daddy had this ball on his shopping list for a while because our big exercise ball is just way too big, and we found the perfect blue baaall last weekend. It's already a new fixture in the floortime toys. Here he is giggling at the blue ball:

Friday, July 11, 2008

1st teether biscuit


Aiden's been starting on small bits of "table" food, and he does pretty well. Some of his purees are a little chunky so you can see him munch on them and swallow. Also, he likes to be occupied with something while we eat dinner, so we gave him his first teether biscuit on Thursday. It was an organic deal that doesn't really taste all that great, but he's discovered it makes a great instrument/toy to wack. I think I'm going to make some of my own from my friend's recipe and see if they taste better. Here's the munchkin playing and gnawing:

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

best places to raise a family

Academia is a fairly stable profession after many years of bouncing around to grad school to post docs to research positions then finally tenure. Once you have tenure there is no guarantee that you won't be able to resist offers from other schools that vie for your attention. This means that we will probably replant again at some point in our lives... who knows when, but I hope that it's before Aiden starts school or is old enough to really care. I also hope that he feels like he has an idea of where his parents work. Some of my favorite memories are visiting my mom's kindergarten classroom as a helper for the day. She would always ask the kids to guess who I was, which I always thought was really fun...and my mom liked it when they guessed that I was her sister (even when I was in 5th grade!)

This article on the best places to raise a family caught my attention. They used factors like the total number of pediatricians, but you only need one right?! But I get the point. I am also very skeptical when I see amount spent per student as a factor, because spending a lot on education doesn't equate to good education. It's more about how engaged the community is in the schools. Here is the
complete article here if you're curious...

Sunday, July 6, 2008

new foods

Aiden is still working on his 7-9 month food additions! It's hard for me to even remember everything that he eats now. I try to keep track so that he's not having the same thing too often, so on the calendar I roughly record the different foods in categories, usually by color - greens and oranges mostly.

But here're our favorite combos:

Mama Grain Poi - (formerly known as plumber's putty when I made a bad batch in Ohio) I've really fine tuned it now. You have to puree it just enough, but not too much. I added a whole pear to the recipe to make the texture better. The pear is watery so it breaks down the gritty beans and quinoa. It helps to really steam the heck out of the bananas too because it makes them sweeter. It looks a bit like poi, that hawaiian purple root stuff.

Oreo Pie: No actual oreos or other over processed sugars in this yummy mixture of Mama Grain (see above - the beans make it look like crushed oreo bits) and yobaby organic yogurt (which is a Baby AB faaavorite!)

Pruney Nana: This purple toned concoction is a sweet smelling combo of fresh squashed banana and well hydrated, steamed prunes/plums.

Pearple Broccoflower:It's a bunch of cauliflower, broccoli, pears, and apple all together in a nice light green smooth puree. It's almost fluffy enough that we could call them sweet mashed potatoes.

Baby Dhal - Lentils and carrot with just the right amount of texture so he's learning to swallow more than just a puree.

His simple favorite seems to be banana. His only distaste was avocado and I think we should give it another try with a really ripe one and he wouldn't mind it now. He literally gobbles up just about everything we give him. I made a big batch of new frozen foods this weekend: another batch of mama grain, black beans and quinoa on their own (for mixing later with other veggies), and the new favorite pearple broccoflower. Yeah, I know, sounds creepy, but it actually tastes really good.

I had quinoa with a cranberry vinaigrette at the Whole Foods lunch bar the other day (our new favorite lunch when J picks me up from RISD) It tastes like a cross between rice and couscous - but it's a complete protein. It is almost translucent and looks lighter than it tastes. It has these little squiggles (where the grain expands it looks like) and if you're not creeped out, I would recommend it! We shopped around this weekend for a new fridge to go with our new cabinets and drawers (to be installed the week after next) and ended up with a new GE side by side in stainless steel. Ever since we left our schmancy side by side in Tucson, I've been itching for a new one. I know that my folks will appreciate the ice and water in the door too (Hey mom and dad, I got a great glass of ice water waiting for you in August!) Now our ice cube trays can be exclusively devoted to baby food making ;) and I have plenty of extra room for all my frozen milk.

Saturday, July 5, 2008

family fourth

Our family fourth of july and mini birthday celebration at Nana's house... Cousin Kayley is a sweet heart to Aiden and Uncle Matt and Aunt Jess just can't get enough baby time (it's contagious!). Thanks for everything especially the cuddles for Aiden.

Or visit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0S6nwMXBXpI

And this is the flip camera in the hands of a three year old - Yeah Kayley Girl!:

Or visit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fjXdADyo8jw

mama can jump!

We took a trip down Route 44 to see what we could see... Ate a late breakfast (my favorite) at Papa's Breakfast Barn in Rehoboth, drove through Taunton, tried to get into the flea market but it was closed, and ended up at the Silver City Galleria.

In an effort to publicly humiliate myself (although I did manage to pull it off even with J and Aiden razzing me), this was just way too much fun! They really call it "That Jumpy Thing":

Or visit:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H0OGrn4RA_o - where you can watch it in higher quality too... because you know you want the fine detail ;)

Friday, July 4, 2008

happy fourth of july!

Stars and stripes forever!

Photo by Auntie Liz at the zoo ;)

Thursday, July 3, 2008

8 months!

Dear Aiden-bo-baden,

You are still our little Baby AB as you turn eight months old today! There are so many tidbits from your seventh month. We know that you are learning just as your dad and I are learning to understand you and each other better. Some days it seems that our learning curves are in tune. As we hug goodbye in the morning, we noticed that if you weren't distracted by your toys, you were beaming and giggling at us with your clappy hands. I'm glad you know how much we love each other.

One of your new favorite activities this month was watching the rain against our big slider door in the barn room - The big bright lights, the waving trees, and the splurty raindrops. The barn room itself fascinates you and you're always crooking your neck to see the big lights. You are much more aware of your surroundings now, and we like to surround you with new things like the grocery store shelves - yep, that's enrichment alright.

Holding our hands, you lift up to standing, then you will balance as you put one foot in front of another - somedays wanting to walk back and forth across the room. On your own, you can scoot backwards and you are definitely in pre-crawl mode. You lunge forward from sitting and end up on your hands and feet like you're practicing your downward facing dog yoga position. Your preferred method of transportation is the good ol roll. I came into daycare earlier this week and couldn't see you because you'd rolled from your normal play spot, all the way across the room, even scooting under the table where your teacher was talking to another mom.

You have done some wild projects at school this month. Highlights include "exploring with red jello in a ziplock bag," "making stars with glitter and glue," and "playing in the sandbox with my friends". It still amazes me that those brave teachers let you near glitter and the sandbox, but dad joked that he found it hard to believe that they put you in a ziplock to play. trahaha. But some of my favorites came toward the end of the month, "Today Aiden explored warm blue water infused with glitter," and "Today Aiden waved at his friends!"

When we were in Ohio, my parent's nice neighbors let us borrow an exersaucer. This particular one was bright orange and featured an identity crisis of toy peripherals: apples, dogs, and cars!? All in one bouncey bounce? Our friends commented when they saw you in your home version (which fits into the castle theme) that they would like an adult version with docking stations and big kid toys. The other awesome play toy in Ohio was a gigantic beach ball that has somehow survived since your Auntie Liz had a birthday pool party who knows how many years ago. When daddy would roll it toward you as you stood against cousin Julie's knees, you would jump and lean forward as if to say 'bring it'. If daddy didn't roll it again quickly enough you would yelp and giggle with anticipation. It was your first version of dodge ball.

Around the time we got home from Ohio, I trimmed what your Gran kept calling your "horns" which were two long strands of hair on either side of your forehead that Gran kept joking she was going to put into rubber bands like that "little Shyla/Kate/whatever her name is character at your school" if I didn't trim them. I also snipped off some of the length on your thinning baby mullet to even out your neckline. I've been cutting your dad's hair for at least seven years now, so we'll see if I can manage to trim your little fuzz head at least for a while.

You saw your first hippo this month at the zoo and had your first visit to the art museum. We can't wait for many more firsts to celebrate!
Love, Ma

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

first flip video

Seriously couldn't be easier! It was so simple it was hard at first. I was looking to do things like compress the video but I didn't even have to because it does it automatically! Downloads like a dream. I made this with one of their auto features in three clicks - seriously! Higher quality than my point and shoot camera video function and ten times easier to download than my sony. But don't worry they will still get plenty of use... must diversify.

Or visit:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jplNoFqa3yA
P.S. The nostalgic sepia tone with old camera film lines is for effect. The actual flip video is clean and crisp.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

mommy check in

I arrived home after work last night with our little smiley in full smile. It was a smooth pick up at school. I didn't see another mom get an incident report (because another kid wacked her bitty baby leaving a big welt, although the teacher kept saying, "...but it didn't break the skin"...eek. I think that Kyla character is getting bored lately and she is ready for the big kid room next month.) I didn't have to wisk Aiden out of a bouncey saucer as he fussed for attention. I don't have any worry that he isn't getting what he needs at school. He just needs to be safe, and there may be minor incidents with that Kyla character, but they always keep him safe. At school, I feel like some days he gets more and some days less. Yes, I feel guilty when I think he's getting less, but whos to say that he wouldn't get less from me some days if I were staying home with him?! Life is about having on and off days.

It was an 'on' day. J immediately came out to help Aiden and I get out of the car. He started explaining that the cats had done something to the couch. I was literally just emailing with a friend about how we never declawed our cats, and I had visions of a ripped up couch... and then visions of us being indecisive trudging through a furniture store with Aiden ;) I bounced in the door and he said that I should look behind the big cushion... I looked and saw a bag tucked back there. Thinking: I wonder how this bag fell back here and I don't see any damage... then waaaait, why does this bag have a new flip video camera in it?! It was a nice early birthday present surprise from my thoughtful husband! We don't really stick with the actual holiday and it's sometimes such a treat to get a present out of the blue. Case in point yesterday. I can't wait to use it during the fourth of july holiday family visit!

Today is a big day in the financial life of the Brennans. J has a real Assistant Professor gig that officially starts today. I'm super proud of him, and it's hard to imagine that we are really making as much money as we are. I still think sometimes we live like we did when we were making under $50,000 a year [that was a long time ago, J wants to add]. I got the typical raise along with the biggest bonus yet - I get to work from home two days a week starting in August! It will be so nice to have a distraction free work environment for creative projects. Aiden will still be at school like normal, but I think it will give me more flexibility. I can also go over to visit and feed him at lunch time since it's right around the corner from home.

Summer hours rock - getting out of work at 4pm every day. On top of it, I'm taking my RISD class Tuesday/Thursday from 10am-1pm which means that it breaks up the work day well. I have my tired days, but most days are very manageable. I got distracted during my break from class today and this baby link my friend sent me sucked me in - ohdeedoh.com. (etsy highlight is the dribbledana = a bandana drool bib)

They were also highlighting a book on motherhood called "The Second Nine Months"...Being a new mom is just as up and down as being pregnant and just as challenging. I think more challenging really. I then got sucked into all the new mom books on amazon. I wish I had time to actually read them (to go back in time I think I would read them, but with caution, because some seem to have a negative approach that isn't always necessary), but instead my demanding day means I'm only reading the amazon reader excerpts (I love the surpise me function that picks a page at random for you to read!) The jist of the books all say something about you just don't have aaaany idea what you are getting into until you are actually a parent. Oh, that is soo true.

Another book that caught my attention was called "I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids: Reinventing Modern Motherhood" The use this cupcake recipe analogy that I think will hit home for many. Here is your surprise me page! - click to see larger:

Sunday, June 29, 2008

new car seat

Aiden's long little legs were peeking out over the edge of his baby car seat. He is technically below the 22 pound weight limit (but probably not by all that much) and the carry handle was buckling if you carried him in it at the wrong angle. He loves his floppy seat in shopping carts and now we'll have to use it in high chairs at restaurants too. The days of the handy infant seat that Aiden could nap in at restaurants are over. No more toting him into school in his little seat so that Kyla character can come over to rock him a little harder than she should. Oh, it seems like just yesterday that I put him into it for the first time on my bed in the hospital.

I finally found the car seat that my parent's had that converts up to 80 lbs that we really like, so it was time for a switch. J took on the task of switching out the base and putting in the new one, which is no fun at all in hot humid weather. It took longer to mess with the seat than it did to cook fish for dinner... and I called him in to eat before it was even finished. By the time we got it in, all three of us were outside (as the weather had cooled) fussing with it. Aiden and I were sitting in the seat to press it down enough to tighten the strap (looking kinda funny I'm sure). It was a nice way to greet the neighbors. Aiden practiced his new wave (which is now facing the right way) and tested out his new seat. In hindsight, it might be smart to get it tested at the fire station ;)

Saturday, June 28, 2008

weekend enrichment

When asked what should we do this weekend, J always responds with "something enriching"... So, since it's been nice out and Baby AB likes getting out on excursions, we decided to head over to RISD's art museum for their FreeforAll Saturdays! The theme was styrofoam and they advertised that there would be puppets. We know that Aiden loooves laughing at puppets, so we figured he'd enjoy it... even though we are well aware that he can't quite appreciate an art museum quite yet. Although he did have moments where he seemed to really be examining things and letting his eyes feast on all the crazy patterns and designs.
We arrived about two hours before the Big Nazo puppet show was scheduled, but we managed to keep busy essentially playing in the museum... and just when Aiden started yawning, it was time to go outside for the show. As we were refreshed by the free Del's frozen lemonade, the crazy costume "puppet" show began! I wouldn't describe these as puppets, but Aiden's reaction was just as excited mixed in with sorta a skeptical stare. (You also get to see snippets of him practicing his new backward wave - He waved at the museum guard!)

Speedy video making is my nursing routine for Aiden. So, here is another view into Aiden's world:

Or visit:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-REXFzUyCdM

waving at visitors!

We love visitors! My aunt and uncle from Ohio were coming to town for a memorial service and they brought my cousin and his girlfriend along for a BBQ. It was nice to share some good food and some smiles (Aiden says thanks for the Indians gear and great bath toys too! Go Tribe!) My cousin and his girlfriend stayed over with us for the night to make their drive to the service quicker, and Aiden was all bright eyed in the morning. As we said good morning, he waved unprompted for the very first time! It's sorta a backward wave with his palm facing him most of the time, but he thinks it's fun to raise his hand and wisk it around when saying hello and goodbye.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

locks of love

I was mildly embarrassed when I would be in a meeting and notice someone staring at long hair strands full of Aiden slobber. I was tempted by photos of Sharon Stone and Natalie Portman with pixie cuts that kept popping up on my favorite yahoo links. I was worried that I would look like Kate from the John and Kate Plus 8 tv show. I was thrown off when Aiden would start eating my hair when I was trying to talk to his teacher at pick up time. All of these things led to my impromtu third Locks of Love donation, my overgrown hair, just perfect at 10.5 inches with a half inch over the required amount. My first donation was on our honeymoon, and my second was only about a year and a half ago. Both of those times I hummed and mummed about it for a bit, but chickened out and went for a simple bob. I was bored with that idea and I knew that those bobs always turn out to be more work than they should be because my hair likes to flip out. I needed a hair cut where it wouldn't matter if it flipped out.


I wanted something that I can wet, shake, and walk out the door with (but per J's request wouldn't make me look like a boy). Verdict is still out on whether this cut will do accomplish that, but it has potential. If I end up hating it at least I have my locks of love donation to know that it was worth it. I hope some little kid is more comfortable and gets a smile from wearing some of my hair (which Aiden has kissed/slobbered for good luck). J's verdict is still out, although I think he's warming up to it. He said it looks rockstarish when it's pulled forward, so I guess Aiden's guitar tye dye onesie works for the new look. I'm sure I'll get better pictures sometime, but it's dinner time soon.

Monday, June 23, 2008

school luau!


Aiden's school kicked off the summer with a luau this year (last year they had a cowboy hoedown complete with pony rides!). This was a much more elaborate event than I expected with a dj, Polynesian dancers, a bouncey house, frozen virgin drinks, and catered food. They said the best dressed boy and girl would get gift certificates to the book fair, and people really took them seriously. I half expected that Aiden would be the only boy dressed in luau gear, but oh boy I was wrong. I think the little boy that carried a ukulele probably won. J could have let Aiden carry/destroy our real ukulele from our honeymoon, but it wasn't worth a book fair certificate ;) Aiden missed a big nap, so he was calm, tired, and pretty easy going about his raffi skirt, although his flower lei had to go early on because he wanted to eat it. I'd tied strands of raffi to buttons on these shortalls that had a matching hat and layered a little Hawaiian shirt over it.



You'll see him below with his teacher Miss Rebecca (Ms Kim wasn't there because she just got married last weekend and is honeymooning). I think Aiden thinks that Miss Rebecca is his Auntie Liz because he gives her big smirking smiles.

Konked out tired after the party:

Saturday, June 21, 2008

happy 1st day of summer!

Celebrating the first day of summer by taking a trip to the swings and slides:

Or visit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxr5DV32K9M

first dip!

Aiden's first splish splash (not quite a swim, but a dip):

Or visit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JAOIInkgoB0

zoo visit!


Or visit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YKJuRnyAbRw

Friday, June 20, 2008

ohio vaca






I felt like this third trip to Ohio was a real vacation. It was longer than a long weekend and J came along (which was really nice for Aiden and for me - for more reasons than just being able to stretch out on the plane - Aiden gets a solid A on both trips. As we landed he didn't even wake up, and J's commentary is that this kid flies too much to not even flinch when the plane skids to a stop.) It was a nice time to get away after a really busy time at work. It's hard to give a rundown of all the "events" but my mom, dad, uncle, and aunt deserve a big thank you because nearly every meal was an event. My sister, her fiance, my grandfather, his girlfriend, and J, Aiden, and I made a big group of visitors on top of an already large coalition of ohio fan club members (13-17 more making over 24 people some of the time). Aiden got to meet his great grandfather and some more great, great uncles and aunts and second cousins. I feel lucky that we can all get together so frequently.

Aiden had his first dip in a little baby pool. We were going to go to the city pool but decided it would be too much trouble, so we bought a cute little froggie pool where the eyes and mouth shape make a shaded area. Aiden loved splishy splashing away with his whistling hippos floating all around them. The little hippos had rings that they floated with and he picked out the yellow one as his favorite and chased it around the little pool. It's amazing that he can concentrate on anything with so many people gooing and gawing at him from outside the pool. His clapping was in full effect, and it seemed that he would start clapping just to get a ooh-aah out of everyone and get us to start clapping. I think he has us well trained.

A highlight of the trip was getting a chance to visit the Cleveland Metroparks Zoo. We were able to meet up with a friend from high school and her adorable little boy who was celebrating his 9 month birthday (about a month and a half older than Aiden). It was nice to meet up and meet her family and I hope we can meet up during other ohio trips. It turned out to be free day for Cuyahoga County residents, and it seemed that the entire county showed up, along with a bunch of summer day camps. I couldn't help but think how "the zoo was a zoo"... I even had to let that "joke" slip when we got wedged into the monkey house with too many squealing kids...couldn't help the bad joke. We saw just about every part of the zoo and the rainforest and spent nearly five hours cruising along. Aiden and Ben were in and out of napping and sometimes looking at us wondering what we were pointing at... The really excited reaction we got from Aiden was in the hippo house. I think he got excited because mom and Auntie Liz were so smiley.

I'm sure I'm forgetting some stories, but I'll post photos later... maybe even video sometime this weekend if Aiden's a good sleeper ;)

Friday, June 13, 2008

the rhythm of parenthood

Visiting home is always a treat and I can't help but sneak away for a bit and "jot down" some thoughts. I would consider a live blog of all the excitement, but this will have to do for now ;) We were originally planning to come to town because my sister and her fiance were going to be in town, but it just happened to coincide with the graduation at my old high school. They had invited me to "participate" as a former award winner and I thought it would be a nice chance to see the school without all the fuss of alumni weekend. My mom came along as another alumnae, so we took the same drive together that we took together for all 4 years of high school. I was feeling reflective, and I couldn't help but think as I spoke to another parent about what it will be like when Aiden's graduating from high school. I know getting ahead of myself... but I don't think I quite understood what it meant to be proud until I became a parent. I also don't think I really knew what tired felt like ;) But most of all, I think I am more grateful to my parents than I've ever been... definitely more grateful than I was or realized I should be when I sat at that graduation 11 years ago.

The Head of School did his typical amazing job of putting together simple words to say really meaningful things. He started off by talking about how proud the class and their parents should feel. He spoke directly to the parents and described "singing the song of parenthood" by keeping "the rhythm of holding close and letting go". I thought about all the milestones where I will hold Aiden close and how learning to let go will be just as important. It all sounds trite when I try to explain it, but the senior speech given ended with a duet singing of the "For Good" song from the Wicked musical.
Here are my favorite parts of the lyrics:

"I've heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well, I don't know if I believe that's true
But I know I'm who I am today
Because I knew you..."
"So much of me
Is made of what I learned from you
You'll be with me
Like a handprint on my heart"

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

crazy class photo

I promise that Aiden's class is usually not miserable.  I also assure you that I laughed out loud and giggled all the way home after picking up this photo from Aiden's school today.  They had said initially that it "didn't go well because everyone got going after the camera guy scared Zach," and we may not get copies this year.  Bummer, I thought it must be a really good shot then for a good laugh.  Lucky us:


Aiden is no longer the itty-bitty new kid on the block. There are at least three new babies because some of the bigger kids moved up. Miss Rebecca on the left is still his secondary teacher although Ms. Kim started just after this was taken and that's Ms. Sandy on the right with her batch of cuties. I don't know all of the kids, but I hope to learn more of their names as I continue to be the primary pick up parent during my summer hours. We also have the workshop's annual summer party, this year a Luau, where we can meet more people. But here is a rundown of some of the more memorable characters:

On the far right with the little pointy pig tails (that hair stays like that even without rubber bands) is "that Kyla character" who literally hunts down Aiden and tries to unlatch him from his seat every morning.  She was an early walker and she can really get around.  She always has cute shoes on, but somehow they are missing in this photo.

Zach, the late bloomer, is smack center in the dark navy hoodie.  He made a pretty slow transition over to the big kid room and was pushing the 15 months old boundary (I think they told me he was 15 months for 3 straight months in a row).  He liked being the ring leader.

In Miss Rebecca's lap on the left, Aiden is sandwiched between Stephanie (formerly known as cry baby because she started daycare a little bit older and all she did was cry and/or have her back rubbed for weeks) and Tyler (who always wants me to pick him up and is Aiden's little buddy). You'll notice that Aiden is missing his white button down but still has his bear vest on with some sort of onsie peeking out - oh, his fashion sense is well beyond his years really and that is why he is crying.

baby signing

We're going to give it a try. His teachers are on board with signing so we have to learn their signs. Another mommy let me borrow her baby einstein first baby sign dvd.  For those that haven't had the pleasure of baby einstein, picture this: a puppet without any arms pops up on the screen, then a series of pictures of babies, followed by a sprinkling of rembrandts and other art history slides. The first thing out of J's mouth as he held our excited bouncey puppet lover was, "Now that puppet can't sign, it has no arms!"  But that puppet can show our baby how to feed another puppet by putting the spoon backward in it's mouth I guess.  The puppet doesn't need to sign because they have these other little cutie pies and Marlee Matlin for that (although some of those kids look old enough to do calculus or at least talk without baby signs).  Another thing I think is funny is which signs are considered to be "first" or most important.  One site I was reading had sign number 14 of babies first 100 signs as divorce.  The practice sentence was my aunt and uncle are divorced.  Now let's see: first, teach kid about the institution of marriage, then the legality of divorce.  Crazy?

I brought signing up with some other mommies and their advice was:
1. Always use a word or phrase while you're doing the sign
2. Use only a few signs when they are really young
3. Make good eye contact and watch them look at your hands signing
4. Teach them useful signs that can help them avoid frustration or gain control
We are starting to use signs for all done, more, and need diaper change. One mom swears that it made her potty training easier because he was already used to sharing when he needed a change.

Monday, June 9, 2008

clapping

Aiden likes to clap!

7 months, five days
His teacher noticed his clapping a while ago and wrote it on his daily highlights, but I got it on tape recently. He's also learning the "more" sign which he shows off a little bit with the closed hand. The teachers plan to use some signs with him too so I think they will help.

anniversary debrief

Last Thursday was our 4th wedding anniversary. The traditional gift is fruits and the modern day gift is appliances. Hmm, I had a predicament, because J's not a huge fan of fruit and he likes to think that anything of use shouldn't qualify as a gift. Lucky for me, he bought a really extravagant upgraded drum set that he promised would qualify as his ultimate gift for the year. In a sleep deprived stupor, I did remember to bring J's card to lunch with us that afternoon. After our somewhat botched valentine's day dinner, we decided to go to lunch while Aiden was at daycare shouting at puppets (instead of yelling at the robotic moose head like he did at our vday dinner). It was a nice lunch at the Cheesecake Factory where the 40 page magazine menu was narrowed down for us because there was a health scare on fresh tomatoes. We ordered a matched set of compatible, yet different meals so that we could share a bit and that food never disappoints. Then we cruised through the bookstore were I couldn't help but buy Aiden a set of safari puppets (hippo included) with matching books. My gift from J was a chance to hear a complete song created completely by his hands, called These Hands, using some of the words from our wedding vows - That new drum set and all those bass and guitars at work: http://www.lightningmp3.com/live/95243-TheseHands.mp3
I feel like Aiden's lucky to have a daddy that can teach him about music.

Sunday, June 8, 2008

hot hot

Today is the hottest day in all of Aiden's life. It's a ridiculous 94 degrees plus humidity here in New England (it was a cool 65 degrees that day before!). Our friends from Tucson came to visit this weekend and they brought the weather with them (which wasn't nearly as cool as the mercat shirt for Aiden and the prickly pear cactus picture - thanks Becca and Scott!). Luckily, our new window air conditioner scheme seems to work out well and we are keeping cool. We were so glad to have a taste of Tucson from our friends, all though we could pass on this weather.

travel advice

From a blogging "friend" -
9 TIPS FOR QUICK AIRPORT SECURITY SCREENING WITH A BABY

Admittedly, Bryan and I stress about getting through security efficiently. We don’t like to delay other people, and we also don’t like to miss our flight. So we developed a system, a meticulous system, early on.

If you’re a laid-back sort, these tips will amuse you. If you hyperventilate at the thought of people in line behind you rolling their eyes, you’ll find this helpful.

The tips assume one baby, two adults, and three carry-ons. And away we go:

1. Get organized. Put liquids, gels, or powder (including baby food) in clear plastic bags. Wear shoes that slip on and off. Skip jewelry, empty your pockets into your bag, and affix your watch to a bag strap.

2. Toss contraband. Before queuing, ask yourself if you have any food or water that you’ve forgotten, and then throw it away. If you accidentally stow it in your bag, they’ll have to search your stuff, possibly send you through the air-puffing machine, call out the dogs, strip search you, and so on. It’s a pain.

3. Centralize IDs and tickets. Have one person keep IDs and tickets in an accessible pouch or wallet. That person shows ID for the group, and collects boarding passes after screening.

4. Get in the fast line. Lots of airports will send you into a quicker line if you have a baby with you. Approach the security agent with your stroller and ask, “Should we be in a different line with the baby?” Blink innocently.

5. Prep while you wait. Remove your shoes and laptops while you’re waiting. When you reach the magnetometer, un-stack as many trays as counter space allows.

6. Use lots of trays. Laptops need their own trays, as do your plastic bags full of food and toiletries.

7. Split up if possible. Ideally, one of you loads the conveyer belt while the other carries the baby through and packs up on the other side.

8. Load the conveyer belt judiciously. That means:

- Stroller or sling so the baby is situated right away and you have your hands free.
- Bag, then contents of that bag, rinse and repeat. That way you can zip one bag shut before tackling the next.
- Shoes go last. Either slip them back on, or go sit down elsewhere so you’re out of everyone’s way.

9. Exchange high fives. Damn, you’re good.

Like I said, meticulous. But awesome, no? If you have more ideas, please share them in the comments.

12 TRAVEL TIPS FOR FLYING WITH A BABY

In Hank’s first year, we’ve visited four different states and three different countries. We’re very tired. Still, we’ve learned a lot about flying with the little guy, and it’s all stuff you should know too.

Follow these guidelines and you’ll be comfortable, entertained, and prepared for the duration of your flight. And if not? Well, at least you’ll be in Belize when it’s over.

1. Book wisely. If your baby is on a regular sleep schedule, take a moment to savor your good luck. Then book your flight during nap or sleep time. Booking tickets is your first chance to optimize seating, though fortunately not your last.

2. Ditch your diaper bag. This smallish Samsonite tote is Hank’s travel bag. (On sale for $20! The hell?) We use it as his carry-on instead of the diaper bag because it has more room, but still stows under the seat. The extra pockets and U-shaped top zipper also make things much more accessible.

3. Provide entertainment. Pack a few new toys if the baby is older, otherwise cup lids and pretzel packets will fascinate. Leave noise-making toys at home. Even soft jingle or squeak will irritate others after an hour or so.

4. Prep for security screening. Invest in a couple of sturdy clear bags that you can yank out of the tote when you get to the security gate. (By the way, food doesn’t count toward your quart-bag limit on toiletries.) We use a medium bag for all his food—usually two ready-to-use bottles of formula, one empty bottle filled with the right amount of powdered formula, and a baggie of powdered formula with the scoop in the bag. The little bag houses children’s Tylenol, hand cream, travel-sized butt paste, a nasal sprayer, eye drops, thermometer, etc.

5. Plan for mishaps. Tuck in two fresh onesies for the kiddo, and a clean T-shirt for you or your partner, in case there’s an incident. You’ll want a few quart-sized plastic zippie bags for wet clothes. I also throw in a large plastic yard bag because it packs so small and is useful if you have a little guy who decides to poop, pee, spit up, and repeat. Dress the baby for easy changes.

6. Prep for fussiness. If you know your baby is a screamer, pack a bag full of foam earplugs for your neighbors. We also find that chamomile or herbal teething drops help calm our baby when he’s grumpy.

7. Buy a couple bottles of water. You can’t get bottled water through security in The States, but you can bring it on the plane if you buy it at the airport. The water on planes has lots of bacteria, so I add bottled water to our powdered formula. We also use a little bottled water and bathroom soap as a last resort if we have to wash a bottle for re-use on board.

8. Strategize seating. A bulkhead seat or an extra empty seat will change your life for the next few hours. First ask for the bulkhead (if you’re traveling internationally with a baby who’s under 28″ or so, this is where they hook you up with bassinets). If they’re not available, and you’re traveling with a partner, ask them to seat one of you on the window and the other on the aisle. This often leaves you with an empty seat between, because no one wants to sit in the middle. If you still haven’t wrangled an empty seat when you get to the gate, bring your cute baby up to the counter and ask very nicely if they can help you find an empty seat should one open up. Then ask if you can get them some coffee.

9. Keep your stroller with you. They’ll give you luggage tags at the gate, and you just leave it outside the door of the plane. We travel with a Kolcraft car seat stroller so we can check the wheels and take the car seat aboard if there are empty seats.

10. Make friends. Be extra kind to every crewmember you encounter. When you board the plane, show the flight attendants your baby, introduce them, take your baby’s hand and help him wave. Flight attendants are awesome, and they’re your allies in keeping the little one quiet and happy. They’ll heat bottles, bring extra blankets, supply cup lids, you name it. But only if you’re pleasant.

11. Do a scrub down. Our doctor advised us to use a few baby wipes to clean our arm rests and table trays. We even clean the light buttons and air vents so everything we touch is a little more sanitary. When you use the changing table in the bathroom, you might also want to wipe off anything the baby can reach in there.

12. Ease ear pressure. The baby should suck on something during takeoff and landing. Nursing works, as does bottle feeding, pacifiers, or a lollipop.

That’s all there is to it. Easier than you thought, right? You’re welcome to leave more ideas in the comments. Tomorrow I’ll do a little roundup of the best way to get through airport security efficiently. You can hardly wait.

Thursday, June 5, 2008

family moments in a fast paced world

Yesterday was Brown's annual staff development day. I decided not to run my own session this year because I wanted to participate. I took a digital video class (yeah I know predicitable), a digital photo class (even more predictable), and a course called, "FamilyHood: Family Moments in a Fast Paced World". The description said something about how to "find more time" with your family. Yea, I know cliche and not possible, but enticing. I mainly just wanted to see who else showed up and I thought maybe, just maybe I would hear people say things that I think about. Of course, it was raining and they planted that session at the farthest, most unfamiliar corner of campus. I almost turned around on my way there when the street was blocked by a construction crane, but I made it. I'm glad I did. She described the things I expected: the power of play (NPR had a story about giving kids the executive function to create their own play), the hurried, overscheduled child, weekdays as layovers to the real family time on the weekends, car schooling, and family traditions.

She shared an interesting tidbit that working parents in the UK reported only interacting with their children about 32 minutes a day. She emphasized "opportunity time" with your children and all sorts of books with suggestions. Most were for much older kids but it was interesting to learn about the trends now (which I'm sure will change by the time Aiden is that old). She was into getting kids out into the woods (book called Last Child in the Woods by Richard Louv), letterboxing (letterboxing.org), and getting kids to connect tv time to adventures (kidsoffthecouch.com) which made me wish Aiden was older ;) Some of my favorite tidbits were when she went into talking about music (John Lithgow's Singing in the Bathtub - big band children's music, J laughed, but he does have a song about hippos), using wordless books to create your own stories so that you remain engaged while reading, and the contact for the spouse of someone that works at Brown that sells pre-prepared meals each day (like the Mixing Table, but never frozen and delivered to you directly).

There was a question and answer time and it was interesting to hear what people had to say. I asked about signing with your baby and the newer moms said they used a few (like done, more, and dirty diaper) and it was well worth it. One mom even reported that it made potty training easier because he was already used to reporting his dirty diaper. There was a guy there that asked for advice on his 16 month old's seperation anxiety (which we can see twinges of in Aiden - Once he sees you at pick up time you can't go around the corner to grab his bottles without a little fuss. He is so excited to see us that I can't help but scoop him up right away anyway. I'm well trained in trying to do things with one hand and his nice teacher Kim helps me). Their advice was to make it predictable so that they expect you will be leaving by playing the same song in the car on the way to school.

Speaking of school, Aiden's not-so-new-anymore teachers, Kim and Rebecca, are great. He is happy to see them and gives them smiles. They've reported lately that he can hold his own bottle while being snuggled, he likes playing in the sand box outside, he "tries" to dance with them (he does a Stevie Wonder impersonation where he sways his head side to side - He's either saying no and really into the music) and he loooves puppets.